Catching feelings can be fun
Boys in my community said I was scary. They said I didn’t smile like other girls. That I was too proud, too much. All my friends had boyfriends except me. I didn’t let it bother me.
While my friends were dating, I helped my mum in the market. Her provision store was busy. So many customers and so much to do.
Last April, a boy walked in with his sister. They wanted to buy milk. I attended to them since my mum wasn’t around. I noticed that the boy was polite. When his sister mistakenly dropped the milk, he didn’t yell at her. Long after they left, I couldn’t stop thinking about him.
Days later, he showed up again. This time, my mum was in the store. He was respectful and friendly to her. He said stuff that made her laugh. Next thing, he came over and said his name was Daniel. He looked me right in the eye. I introduced myself and kept working.
When I looked up, he was still standing there. I could hear my heart pounding in my ears. He asked if he could visit the next day. I was shy, but I said okay.
Sure enough, Daniel came with a pack of playing cards. We played until we lost track of who was winning. I didn’t care. I enjoyed being with him, talking to him. I found out he lived on the other side of town. I was shocked that he came all the way just to see me.
We started spending lots of time together. He said he liked the way I carried myself. He didn’t interrupt me when I spoke and seemed very interested in my opinions and dreams. He helped out in the store even though my mum told him not to worry. Back home, she said he had good home training. It felt good to hear that.
Soon my mum said we could hang out elsewhere. We started dating for real. We would go to the youth centre and play games. We always made sure we hung out where other people were. Those boys in my community couldn’t believe it. They stared at Daniel as if he had two heads. One of them asked Daniel how he got me to date him. He laughed and said, “That’s our secret.”
Being more than ‘just friends’ with boys is a normal part of growing up. When you feel you are ready, choose someone who treats you right, who likes you just the way you are, respects your values and opinions, who does not pressure you into doing what you don’t want to do.
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Hi big sis, am new here and I love the good advice you've been giving we young ladies. Love you ma and thanks for the good work
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Topzy! Awwww… thanks a lot for the kind words. We really appreciate it and we love the fact that you enjoy reading the stories. Remember they are for you. Do not enjoy this alone, please invite your friends to also learn from us. Thanks a lot.
Hi sis pls is it possible for a gal to fall in luv wit a guy on social media?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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no....
Hey Verah! Yes, it is possible. But this doesn't happen overnight and you have to be sure that you are not in "lust" with that person. Also remember that it is also very risky to start a relationship on the internet because you could fall into the wrong hands. Just be extremely careful. We hope this helps
I luv every thing here tanks a lot
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
yes there is
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
M having problem with my bf....I don't tink love is real it is just lust
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Princess! What kind of problems are you having? Do you mind sharing them with us?
Permit me to ask, how do you know the love is not real
are all men really the same?they never keep their promises,this affecting me big time...
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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I take pride in the fact that not all men are the same. Just don't be lost with lust. If you are lustful and guys perceive that then you are gone.
Hey joyDeva! Not all men are the same. The fact that some of the men you have met did not keep to their promises does not mean that all men do that. Remember you have metonly less than 1% of the men in this country. Another thing is that when you put too much expectations in men too to avoid getting disappointed. We hope this helps
No
Everyone gets someone as he grows up but we should not be blind with youth exhurberance cause that's what hurts. True love don't hurt.
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
My boyfriend is caring guy and i pray he shld nt change 4rm dis.
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Hmm!! Interesting story
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Yes is good to love .
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Interesting story I also have someone like that it's a girl actually I don't think that will happen between us
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Bigsis Is It Good To A Guy On Socialmedia
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Good afternoon all. First time here..well is am interesting story but i would say i face rubbish in the hand of my ex boyfriend he is not caring he dont understand etc but my present date now is awesome sweet a guy any lady is dreaming to have:) my question is how can a girl really know the perfect guy at first sight
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Nancy! Welcome to Springster. So sorry for what you went through with your ex. You are in the best position to know who is right for you because you know what you want. The only advise we can give is that you should be very attentive and observant. Pay attention to the little signs. They really matter too. Also, do not be in a hurry. We hope this helps
Hi big sis!!!!! There is dis gal dat i lv so very much bt don't know hw to tell her bcuz am shy, though she's kinda far 4rom me bt i do go visiting and still don't know hw to tell her. help pls
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Yama! Thanks for opening up with this comment. Start with being friends with her. You can never go wrong when you start this way. This way, you will get to know her better and build trust. Remember that the secret to a successful relationship is friendship. We hope this helps
Nice story dear
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
I love this!
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Gud day every 1, am a guy @ 18 yrs old, is it gud to start dating a girl now?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Iconing! There is no particular age for one to start dating. Dating has to do with maturity and not age. Before you start dating someone, be sure that you are really ready for the responsibilities of dating and if you are mentally prepared for it. Also, don't date because your friends are doing it or because a boy is pressurising you to do it. We hope this helps.
Thank u so much
Hmmmm...I love d story so touching I hv dis boyfwend, he loves me nd I also love him Buh he's shy.hw can I make him closer 2 me
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey daisy! Talk to him. Tell him how uncomfortable his shyness makes you. Give him time, don't put pressure on him. Make a conscious effort to help him loosen up when he is with you. We hope this helps
Touching
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
I HAVE A FRND SINCE CHILDHOOD WHEN I WAS A TOM BOY,NOW AM GROWN UP AND WHEN I SEE HIM DOES THIS MEAN I LYK HIM
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hi Vixen, could you make your comment clearer? What exactly happens when you see your childhood friend?
most time i become shy around him.which is quite not lyk me,and tounge tied
Hi Vixen, if you could speak to him freely before and you are suddenly shy and tongue tied around him then maybe you like him. It depends. Are you shy around other boys? If you are then maybe you just became shy around boys in general including this boy who used to be your close friend. Try to talk to him more and see if you enjoy talking to him and miss talking to him or being around him when he is away. If you feel like this about him and not other boys then it's possible that you have feelings for him. It is best to talk to a trusted friend or adult about it as well so this friend can watch you when you are around him and help you find out how you feel. We hope this helps.
hy big sis thanx for the story, i luv it
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
very interesting
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Captivating.
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Yes but am shy to ask her out. Wht should i do to avoid being shy? Plz i need help
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Supreme! If you are shy, there are so many other ways to tell her how you feel about her. You can start by being friends with her or you can write a letter to her or even talk to her. But we advice that you summon courage to talk to her. The worst that can happen is that she will say no and that is never the end of the world. We hope this helps.
so intrestin
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
awesome
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Waoh so sweet
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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sew and wear iron pant to stop any further misconduct
intresting
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Hi everyone big sis my problem is when a boy come up to me i just ingore them but i feel like having a boyfriend what can i do
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hi big Sis... I'm an activist... I normally have numerous friends and besties(both male and female) I sometimes crush on my friends..but I dislike them... Anytime I'm alone, I feel like having s ex... I don't know if I masturbate or not..... please what can you advise me to do???
Hey NAOMI! Thanks for the comment. If you really want to have a boyfriend, you should stop ignoring guys. You should also try not to be rude because no one will want to have a girlfriend that is rude to them. We hope this helps
Hey Yhubby! Thanks for the comment. There is so much happening with you. It seems like you are not sure of what exactly is going on and it is happens... you are at the stage in your life where you are trying to figure yourself out and it's very okay. The truth is that you cannot have a crush on people you dislike. It is okay to have an urge for sex too. You are the only one to know if you masturbate because masturbation is something you do by yourself. Maybe you should read more articles on Springster to know about yourself better. You are on a journey of self-discovery and it is fine. We hope this helps
Hi big sis,i met a guy online nd i love him so much nd i know he also love me,so these recent month most of my old school friends whom i once had a crush on are nw askimg me out nd it was then i realised dat i was still in love with them.Pls wat should i do.Thanks
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Highcloud! A crush is a feeling that is short lived (for a short time). So having a crush on a guy or several guys means it will die soon. We hope this helps
there is this girl i have as a classmate. i loved her the very moment i saw her. sometimes she plays with me as she would do with the others, but i never see her to be just classmate because i loved her instead. sometimes i wanted to tell her my feelings but i am afraid and shy to tell her. please what should i do to make her understand my feelings and love me back?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey jericho! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Love at first sight - sounds nice *smiles*. We totally understand how you feel right now. What you need to do is to approach her for friendship first (yes, be friends with her). We are sure you are wondering why friendship first. Well, this is the best foundation and also a good avenue for you both to know each other better. With time, who knows, she can also fall in love with you too. If you rush to ask her out, she may reject you because she doesn't know you too well. We wish you all the best and we hope this helps
hi big sis am new here.. der is diz guy in my class,almost all d galz in my class has a crush on him,bt den i didnt see as a serious tin,nt until wen his frend told me dat he lyks me bt he cnt tel me coz, he is shy,bt i started havin strange feelin 4 him,i tink i hv a crush on him.PLZ WAT SHULD I DO
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey coozybabe! Thanks for opening up through this comment. You need to be sure of the feelings you have for him first. Once you are sure, feel free to do what you want. We cannot tell you whether or not to date him because it is a personal decision. Think it through first and we wish you all the best and we hope this helps
i like a boy in my class which i told his friend about it and his friend said he will talk to him about it and when he found out , he said he will never like for one minute and i felt like fainting when he said that.....
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hello dear...i'll advice you take it easy remember ''it hurts to love and not to be loved in return'' but don't forget that if you love someone and you ain't loved in return you just have to move on.....no offence please..... I hope this helps
hi guyz am new here. Nyc story
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hi Nana! Welcome to Springster, we're glad to have you here. Our stories and articles were written for you so we hope you continue to enjoy them.
hi big sis,dere was dis guy i lyk while in my skul days,although he also said he lyk me,but dis few days we had some misunderstanding nd he block my fbook account,nd i delete his numba,but his sister gave me his numba again, tellin me to beg him,when am nt at fault,what should i do,am pissed out,i need help...
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey adex28! Thanks for opening up through this comment. The only question we are going to ask is do you want to apologise? Whatever your answer is what you should do. You are in charge of your life so do what you think is right or what works for you. If you are not sure of what to do, take some time to think about the situation properly before you make a move. We hope this helps.
Hi guys I am new
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
How do u know when a guy loves you but he's ashamed to admit it
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Ellalove! Thanks for opening up through this comment. There is no manual on how a guy should treat you if he loves you. Everyone has their own way of expressing/showing love that is unique to them. Just pay attention to the little details and how he treats you. You can even ask him to be extra sure. We hope this helps
HI EVERYONE,BIG SIS I HAVE A CRUSH ON THREE GUYS IS DAT THEY DONT LIKE ME BUT THEY HAVE NOT COME UP TO ME NID A HELP
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey SEKEMI! Thanks for the comment. Like you said, you have a crush on the guys and not the other way round so they obviously do not know how you feel about them so this should not worry you. If you really want to get their attention, walk up to them and start a regular conversation. You can just say hi to them. We hope this helps
Yes there is,but how can u know if he is afraid 2 tell u?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey LOVE! If you like him and you feel he is afraid to open up to you, why don't you just start a conversation with him (just a friendly conversation, nothing extra for now). If you are bold enough, you can just open up to him. We hope this helps
Ma, how do I know the right guy for me?.There's a guy who is always buying me stuffs I need and he said he loves me one time but I thought he was joking.He calls me and tells me things he doesn't tell other people.Do you think he lives me or is he just interested in being my friend..help pls
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Bimbily97! Giving you gifts does not necessarily mean love. The question you should be asking yourself is "Do I love him?". Do not be blinded by the gifts. Why are you accepting the gifts? Will you like him when the gifts stop coming in? He already said he loves you, how do you feel towards him? Ask yourselves these questions and give honest answers. We hope this helps
Waiting for your reply ma
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Pls big sis,wat should i do to keep a guy i met online we luv eachother but dont wanna loose him
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Online relationship is amazing but amazement is not all that matters in a relationship, you need to meet in person
Hey Highcloud! First of all, you have to be careful because not everyone on social media (Facebook, Instagram etc) lives a real life. Some of them are hiding their real personalities on social media. You are probably enjoying the attention he is giving you since this is your first "relationship". If you must go out on a date with him (which we do not advise), please go to an open place (of your choice, not where he chooses) that has many people and be very watchful. If he asks you to go to somewhere private and/or secluded, please do not go. If possible, go with someone and tell a trusted adult where you are going to and also give his number. We hope this helps.
Wow.......
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Big sis, dere is a guy I ave crush on bt he already have a gf....... dis guy just count me as his best friend nd I also tel him dat is my best friend bt I feel a lot 4 him more dan just a friend, pls wt should I do????? M' totally confuse
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey photropal! So sorry about this. Don't force it. You will be breaking a relationship if you do. It can be painful but there is no need to push the relationship. Just let him go... If you cannot stand being friends with him, step back. We hope this helps
Yes, I have crush at this guy, which just want us to be mere friend
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey temmy! Thanks for the comment. The good thing about this situation is that you are still at the crushing stage so it is easier for it to die. Crushes are feelings that tend to die fast. Do not force a relationship with him because it won't work. Get a worthy distraction like read a book, learn a skill, go out with friends... these will distract you and make you think less about him. We hope this helps
i have a crush on a boy at school but he being mere friends
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey beauty! Thanks for the comment. The good thing about this situation is that you are still at the crushing stage so it is easier for it to die. Crushes are feelings that tend to die fast. Do not force a relationship with him because it won't work. Get a worthy distraction like read a book, learn a skill, go out with friends... these will distract you and make you think less about him. We hope this helps
i have a girl who i fell in love with but i don't know how to tell her i love her, please help me
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey chizzybesty! Always start with friendship. Walk up to her and start a normal conversation. Get to know her better before bringing up your feelings. It is better this way. You may eventually realize that you do not love her personality and behaviour so please get to know her better okay? We hope this helps
Am Always Falling 4 Any Guy That Toast Me Y?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Rhyta! Thanks for the comment. We do not know what you are feeling but what we know is that it is not love. It could just be excitement you know? Take your time to figure out what exactly it is that makes you "fall". That's the easiest way to answer this question. We hope this helps
A friend told me that a particular boy I like doesn't like me but I went up to the boy and asked him and he said he does with all his heart. I don't know what to do I am so confused
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Study him well
Hey Goody! Thanks for the comment. Can we know what you are confused about? Like Ajoke said, study him well. There is really nothing to be confused about. Once you are sure he is genuine, it is up to you to make a decision for yourself. We hope this helps
There a guy in my school he is my headboy he's so handsome many girls love him they give him der body but he came to me and say he love i love him too but many girls he like girls.Plz i don't no what to do
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Ajoke! You just have to study him and be sure that he is good enough for you. When you confirm, the decision is up to you to make. We hope this helps
How Can U Knw If A Lady Lyks U
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey dave98! There is no manual with tips on how to know this. Everyone is different and shows love differently so you need to figure it out yourself. It takes patience and good observation. We hope this helps
Hello, please I need your help, I met this guy 5 months ago, he's nice and cool, he asked me out and I said no,because i am not ready for a relationship and he also told me he has a girlfriend who's not always available and doesn't have his time. We became so close, like best friends, he wants more but I couldn't, he has a girl. Unfortunately I fell in love with him, yeah, I know it's love because I never felt that way before. I tried all my best to avoid him thereafter, because I knew it was a bad idea, but he keeps coming back, I couldn't hold back also, he's the first person I fell in love with. I told him, he said he also felt that way since he met me. We were very close that I began to forget he has a girlfriend. I only see him once in a while, but we talk and chat on phone daily. We then chatted about sex and so, I told him I'm a Virgin, he said he had sex before. I love him so much, sometimes I even buy our meal. He said he will love to be with me forever, i told him our age difference is quite much, hes 26 and im 18, but he told me it doent mean, that love matters. One day he took me to his sister's house, she went for holiday. We planned on having sex, and he promised he'll be gentle on me. When we got there, he kissed me, that was my first kiss, then he offed my cloth, I didn't care aslong as he's the one, the one I loved, and he loved me. As he was about do it, I told him not to, then he didn't, he wore my cloth back for me, he always promise me he'll never rape me, so he drove me back home that night. He didn't call or chat me, I called him the next day he didn't pick then I called again he shouted on me and hanged up when he picked, I couldn't believe it, I cried, I remembered the days he use to call me for hours and beg me not to sleep yet because he wants to hear my voice. I remembered everything he always tell me like, he'll never leave me, he love me. I didn't love him from start but I don't know how I fell in love, but I think he's over it now, he doesn't call unless I call him, whenever I call him hell tell me I just forget him. I couldn't bear it, I deleted his number. But I swear I still love him, I can't stop thinking about him, I cry everyday I'm stuck to him and I don't think I can love another person. Please help how can I get over this.
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Macbeth! This comment has already been answered in the other article. You do not have to comment on more than one article to get Big Sister's attention. Please, comment on just one article and you will be replied. Thanks
hello bigsis,plz i need ur advise.i broke up with my boifriend 4 months ago..it was really hurting.i decided i was never goin to love or date anyone until whenever am ready....within these 4 month i turned down all the guys that asked me out with the excuse of not being ready for a relationship but recently i met this guy who has been so nice and caring.i told him from the start that i wasnt ready 2 date anyone and i gave him my reasons.my problem now is that am beginning to like him buh am scared to say yes i dont want any heartbreak and am also scared to say no coz i dont want to hurt him....plz big sis wat do u tink i should do
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
i have a boyfriend who is asking for sex i allow him
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey lolby! If you are not ready to have sex, do not allow anyone to pressure you into doing it. Sex is a personal decision not something that someone forces you to do. If he truly loves you, he will respect you. We hope this helps
a guy who love u can never ask of sex
It will be good if you avoid sex for now. If he pressures you ask him if he is ready to be a father. Hope its not too much
a guy asking u for sex while his nt yr husband is seriously wrong
if you date a guy and he asks you for sex know dat he didnt even love you and dat all wat he had for you was lust
hy big sis. I av a boy friend ,we were close friends at childhood. And as we grew old we started having feelings for each other. its was fun at first but I feel bad he don't call any more wen I call he pick and hangup almost immediately we greet . I still love him but am not sure if he does also should I continue or quit cos I don't want to hurt him
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey xtar! We are sorry about what happened with your boyfriend. We do not want to assume so we advise that talk to him about what is happening and about his attitude to you. Keeping silent and assuming will only make things worse. If he still ignores you, send a text and wait for a few days for his reply. If non comes in, let him go. You'll be fine dear. We hope this helps
i av a boy in my neighbourhood,i once had a crush on him.But he didnt like then now i av a very cute boyfriend.He is disturbin me 4 my love.Big sis wat should i do
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Qme! If you are not interested in a relationship with him, then let him know. No one should force you into a relationship with them. The final decision is up to you to make. We hope this helps
I have a crush and he is still in love with me but we are so shy to admit our love big sis what do I do
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Benny! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Someone needs to break the silence if not, nothing will happen. Also, you need to be very sure that he loves you and that you are not just assuming things. Remember that what you have is a crush and crushes tend to have a short span (they die easily). So, this is another thing you have to look out for. We hope this helps
Yea DAT true always choice a person who share the same thoughts with you
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Yes, I do someone like that. I'm just so scared of dating and having a boyfriend now. I believe I'll soon be ready.
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
same thing to mie I dnt ave boyfrd bt all frdz has Bt i fink diz iz ryt tym 4 mie to ave coz i nid sum1 wu i cn share my problem wit Hope i choose ryt?big sis
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Folabex! Having a boyfriend should not be because all your friends have one but rather, because you are prepared. If you have a boyfriend for the wrong reasons, you will not like your experience. Being in a relationship comes with a lot of responsibilities and you have to be prepared for them. Please, take your time. No need for you to be in a hurry, when the time is right, you willl have a boyfriend. We hope this helps
folabex let's be friends
xame here i'm single nd don't think they are neccessary.
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Yes but not really sure cos we are far away from each other
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
NO
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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why....
Big sister I'm new here z it ok 2 lyk sum1 u senior(boy)
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Springster! There is nothing wrong with loving someone older. Love knows no bounds or age. We hope this helps
Wow no matter the condition just be your self
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
how can I know if a guys loves me
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Third law of motion starts that action and reaction act in the same ratio but in chemistry action act before reaction but what is required is love not lust
No amount of love a guy shows to a girl is genuine guys are bound to fail we are moral just know that guys are like non stagnant water that moves. From one place to another
Hey Joshuadogo147! We do not agree with the fact that no amount of love a guy shows to a girl is genuine. Some guys genuinely fall in love with girls. You can only fall in love when you truly are ready and you understand what true love is. We hope this helps
It happens to me to in school. Every single guy does not like me saying i am not smart
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Hi big sis, pls can I have your contact?
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Peace! This is the best place to communicate with big sis. Feel free to communicate with her here okay? We hope this helps
No
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
not really
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
No, but I need one being a single mother. Someone who make me feel important, and also care for my children. Kofo
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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#Bola really?
#Bola really?
Hey Bola! Thanks for the comment. We understand that you need someone to care for you and it is fine. What we want is that you also find someone that will love and care for your child or children too (the same way they care for you). This will complete it. Do not be in a hurry so that you do not make a mistake. We wish you all the best and we hope this helps
no boy is dat close 2 me xcept 4 my frend who will always remain my best frend
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Yes and he's been really amazing
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
romancing!
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
romancing!
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
hmmm
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Nice
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Hmmm Nyc Story
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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hello can we be friends
hey spunky123 can we be friends
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
I'm happy to hear that, because you guys make me remember my true love then, but now my true love is far away from me, because she started listing to what people advice her, I don't believe that she can forget our true love just like that, because of money
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Ifedamola i fall into ur category somehow, d guy i loved doesnt really care abt me anymore nd u knw it borders me alot cos i cant love anybody again
Dat Gud And Am Hapi 2 Hear Dat 4rm U And Dont Mind Others Cos Dey Are Jealous Of The Two Of U Frendship
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Dia Was A Guy In My Area He Sumtime Tell Me He Luv Me Bt Later He Will Say He Only Test Me, Wat Can I Do To Knw If He Luv Me
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Hey Abitem! He doesn't love you. No one that loves you will play with your emotions in that way. If he loves you, he will say it and mean it instead of saying he is testing you. We hope this helps
no., still don't have a lover of my life.
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Don't worry very soon GUYS will come knocking at your door
To me if you love a girl it is from the heart. Some boys just go into a relationship, because they think it's a game. They don't know they breaks a girl heart 💔,✂❤,the moment they Dump her
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hello
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hy how re u
I'm just like u but I feel Im not ready for a relationship yet
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WHY
I don't knw I just feel uneasy with sitting or talking to guys or let say boys I ave study myself very well
Hey sheunzy! We are so glad that you know what you want for yourself. When you are ready for a relationship, everything will flow with the right one. Do not be in a hurry, take your time okay? Thanks for sharing this
Every time I am been dated before the matter of a month we break up.
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Hey Dricks9000! This is because you are dating just anyone you see. You do not date because there is someone available or that someone likes you, you date because you are ready for a relationship and that you know what you want from that relationship. First and most important thing you need to work on is the fact that you need to know what you want in a partner. This will take a very long time to figure out so take your time and do not be moved by what you see physically. We hope this helsp
My Name Is Radiant. I Have A Friend Not My Boyfriend Who Cares Alot About Me, Who Always Want To Spend Time Wit Me, But There Is This Part Of Him Which I Dnt Like, That Is, He Always Like Asking For Sex. Is It Ok To Have Sex With A Guy That Is Nt Ur Boyfriend?
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Hey Radiant! You need to be very careful around that boy. He is out for something and he is not safe to be with. Please tell a trusted adult about this and make him know that you are not interested in having sex with him (except if you are). Please, stay safe at all times. We hope this helps
Hi bigsis a guy i think a boy is staring at me in class and if i look at him he smiles and i smile back too.he likes teasing me too and like asking me 4 money or eating my snacks.wats going on please?
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Maybe he's in 💕💖💞 wit u
Hey Jbgold! This could mean anything but the fact that he likes asking you for money and eating your snacks... be careful that he is not trying to take advantage of you. Staring can mean anything and it is not always love so please Dricks9000 take note. Please let a trusted adult be aware of this and be very careful too. We hope this helps
Hmm i am so speechless maybe its becos i!ve learnt too much
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not yet
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Hey bigsis u have nt ans my question
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Yes there is,though he isn't just ready to let it out probably because he thinks I'm too young to,since he's 29 and I'm 17,I know he does love me,but I'm confused should I agree when he finally ask me out,isn't he too old for me,and I didn't want to date this year but what if I loose him by saying no big sis I need an answer pls
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Hey Grace! Thanks for the comment. First of all, you already said you don't want to date this year meaning that you are not fully ready for a relationship. Also, he thinks you are too young for him. These are enough to cause havoc in a relationship. You both are not fully ready so why force it? The fact that you love someone does not mean that you both are compatible for a relationship. Do not rush in because you will rush out. Once you have a doubt in your mind about a relationship, do not force it to happen. My dear, take your time and don't rush because you do not want to loose someone. We hope this helps
Dia Was A Guy I Met Recently, He Said He Want 2 Be My Lover. He Edit My Pix N Post It On Fkbk And He Was Telling Me Dat I He Wnt 2 Mari Me; Wat Shd I Do?
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Hey Abitem! You do not sound like you know anything about this guy. Are you ready for marriage? Do you both have what it takes to stand on your own financially, mentally, emotionally and physically? Posting your picture on facebook does not make someone marriage ready. You need to know what you want for yourself first before you can be with anyone. There is no need to rush girl, take your time and plan your life first. We hope this helps
There are two boys who i like(a and b),a is my senior and b is my classmate.a and b are brothers and b has a girlfriend who is my friend.please help me.
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Hey Tiga! Thanks for the comment. First of all, you cannot love 2 people equally so we think this is a crush and crushes die after a short time. Also, anyone that has a girlfriend or is in a relationship with someone else is totally out of question. You cannot also date 2 guys at the same time (and so brothers will be out of the equation too). We hope this helps
I am shakari and i have a boyfriend who was dating me for 3yrs nw and we have be in love but a man cum and ask for me hand in marriage inwhich my parent want me to marry this man pls what wil i do nw?
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Hey Den! Thanks for the comment. We can only imagine what you are going through right now. At times like this, it is important to talk to a trusted adult who can help you with your feelings through situations. This could be your parents, a cousin, sibling, friend, an aunt or an uncle, a neighbour or even a religious leader that you trust. YThere is also a professional body you can speak to called, The Women at Risk Foundation who help young women who are faced with similar situations such as yours. You can call them on 08 09 21 00 00 9. This service is completely confidential-which means they won’t share what you say to them with other people. While reaching out, please note that you would be charged for it. We hope this helps
I'M abdon,. BIG sis, i really need your help.. everytime i get myself to relationship with a lady i love, they always break up with me for no reason... pls what can i do
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Hey Abdon1! Thanks for the comment. It could be because they never really love you or knew what they wanted from the relationship before they got into it. This is not in any way your fault okay? What you can do is to have a discussion with any girl before you get into a relationship. You both have to be on the same page, share similar interests etc before you start dating. If you both are not, it is better for you to move on (even if you really like her). This may help avoid all of these heartbreaks. We hope this helps
hmmm no
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I'm LEKCEE, Big sis there is these girl i have feelings for every time i saw may beats very fast and see her every day and i don't have the courage to walk up to her and tell her how i feel because we don’t have any business together. Please help me out
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Hey lekcee_16! Thanks for the comment. What you have is a crush. You need to get to be friends with her and get to know her better. Do not rush into anything with her yet because you are not in love. When you know her better, you will then know if you really like the total package. We hope this helps
No
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Hey big sis! I used to hv dis girIfrnd i so Ioved her i caIIed her my truest Iuv cus of aII d girIs i av ever dated she was d one dat showed me Iuv w we Iasted for somtime untiI she met anoda guy and begin to misbehave it Ied to our breacup i was heartbrocen for Iong but not quite Iong she came bac apoIogising am scared bcus i dont want a brocen heart again but i stiII Iuv her wat do i do /
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Hey CHI! Thanks for the comment. You need to be very careful and think about it. The decision is up to you to make so you have to think about it well. Do not be in a hurry to make a decision about this. We hope this helps
How do boys toast girls
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Hey Yuung! There is no tip or manual on how toast a girl as every girl is different. Guys are different too so you need to understand how girls think and you also need to know that it is not every girl you come in contact with that you should toast. We hope this helps
yes
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I met a guy in my church i like so much, i told my frd she say i should tell how i feel him. the guy ask me to borrow him my text book, i gave it to him. when the guy has finish he it bak to me, he wrote sometin and his phone number. did he like me
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Yes
Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. Giving you his number does not automatically mean that he likes you. You both do not know each other well so you need to use this opportunity to even find out if you even like him as much. Take your time and do not be in a hurry to jump into anything with him. We hope this helps
d best tin 4 u 2 do is to study him very well
d best tin 4 u 2 do is to study him very well and don't just jump into conclusion my dear
NOP! am really being focused on my education!
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Ofcourse dear! Don't let useless guys fool you... And eventually dump you!
as 4 now nobody am stil focused with my books
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den i think we have tins in common
Yea my bf , he's exactly like this, but i don't have the courage to tell my mum cause i don't know how she'll react.
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Hey Sprinsgter! The only way to know how she'll react is to tell her but if you do not feel comfortable talking to your mum, you can talk to another adult that you really trust that won't judge you too. We hope this helps
I've crushed on a guy since primary school and I still like him. We just met on Facebook recently and we've been flirting. I really like him a lot. I know a crush is temporary ,so do I love him?
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Hey dixella! Thanks for the comment. Like you said, you had a crush on him and now you are flirting with him so this is, first of all, a wrong background for any kind of relationship. Flirting is not love neither is a crush love. You want to turn this into love so bad that you are now flirting with him. Be careful so that this guy does not take advantage of you. There is nothing wrong with you both being just friends. We hope this helps
my bf is just like dis, we've been dating 4 five years now, but I can't summon d courage 2 tell my parents about us bcus they've warn me against having an affair wit some1 with a lower standard of living dan us, although he's not rich but I luv him and my parents likes him but dey dnt know we have an affair, I dnt know if dey will accept him, but his family knows me and dey like me. Pls wot shud I do??
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Wow. I love your courage. It shows you're humble for dating someone who's class is lower than yours. It won't be bad to keep up with the relationship without letting your parents know for the mean time, that's if you both plan on getting married. But if you don't really plan to, I think you should let them know, the earlier, the better. Their mindset about lower class people would have probably changed, you wouldn't know until you try.
thanks bhella
Hw can a gal or a boy detect that someone is having a crush on him/her. Is it when the person countlessly luks at him/her or what? Hw can one possibly detect?
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Hey Gooddy-b! Thanks for the comment. We have written an article that addresses this issue and it is titled "Crush vs Love: Know The Difference". Read it and it will answer your questions. We hope this helps
Big sis! I have this boyfriend he was pretty cool the first time we meet ,i love him but i can't tell if he really love me,cause he don't support my opinions,so i start feeling sad inside of me ,till one day we both went out to have some fun,then he bring sex issues into it and i told him i wasn't ready ,he became angry and he tried to sease mu phone ,i couldn't accpt that so we both start dragging the phone and he trowed it on the ground that got me angry so i just gave him a break,so right now am confused.i don't know if am to end the relationship ,pls i need ur help
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Hey erella! Thanks for the comment. There is nothing to think about here. You need to not only leave him but you also need to run away from this guy. For him to seize your phone because you refused him sex means that he can rape you and that is not safe for you. Love is not by force and sex is not love. Please, leave him and don't think twice about it. You should also let a trusted adult know about this. Try to be safe because he seems like an angry and dangerous person. We hope this helps
Am new here am h accommodated
Big sis,i just did that,i told him to move on yersterday but now, am not myself,what do i do to get him off my mind pls help
Dat is nt love
am new here!i hav 6 boyfrneds bt i luv only one . each of dem no i hav a boyfrned bt dey stil insist i be de girlfrnd.wat shuld i do
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Hey tessy! You do not need 6 boyfriends for anything. If you love only one of them, then why are you dating the remaining 5? You need to ask yourself certain questions like why are you even dating? What do you expect out of your relationship? What does love mean to you? Please, and please, you need to stay away from relationships for now until you figure out what you want for yourself and then from a relationship too. We hope this helps
I'm Francis, i once had a girl friend that always listen to me but i don't actually know the reason why i love her even till now i still love her and i still want her but she is giving me a hard time
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Hey Phrances! Thanks for the comment. You should talk to her about this and how you feel right now. Communication is very important in a relationship and you both need to talk things out to get rid of the tension. We hope this helps
Hi big sis am 19 year old plus and nd hv dated more dan 19 guys kos i do double date to revenge on wat soneone did to me nd i always hv d guys dat do hv true nd sincere love to me nd almost 9 of dem sex me nd but now i realise m not in my right sence kos most if dem love me to d extend dat dey do propose to marry me nd to knw my family nd dey can also do anything for me to hv me dey do watever i ask dem to do for me but now i realised i need to stop all dis to hv a good life nd a good man forr my future husband. . big sis i need ur help on wat to do i want to start a new life i want to be d good girl i was before plssss nd i also want meet any adult for advise it ur advise i need nd other pple here plsssss wat should i do to hv a good life? will i still can i still hv or c a responsible man who is gonna marry me ? kos i dnt need any of dem plsssss wat should i do nd am a kind of soft hearted girl who do fall for guys easily nd after some time i will hate them plsss sis nd friends help me out...... dnt think of how bad i am i was once a good girl dat makes my family proud.. can i still make them proud? can i still leav a good life? can i still be comfortable with just a guy nd not double dating can i still hv good one...plssss help me out.....
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Hey luna! Thanks for the comment. Of course, you will make your family proud and you will definitely find a good man that will love and cherish you like you are the only girl on this planet. All you did was out of ignorance and it is good that you are now aware and you are willing to change. You have taken the right step and this is the step towards progress. What you need to do is to end all those relationships because you do not need any of them. Also, apologise to the ones that you hurt so that you do not feel guilty for it. Another thing is that you may need to change your circle of friends because they may be bad influence for you and they may not understand why you have changed. The most important part is to have an adult that you trust and you can always confide in. Don't worry okay? Big sister and other Springsters believe in your progress and the new you. You are special and you deserve the best (which you will have). We have your back and will be here for you anytime you need us. Keep it up girl. Big sister loves you. We hope this helps
Thanks big sister am greatful i hope and believe every single words of your ecouragement here will help me get a new start of my life......
Big SIS, how do I know that I have feelings for someone. Please reply
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Hey excel! This is personal but we advise you to read the story "Crush vs Love: Know The Difference". It will guide you. We hope this helps
dear big Sister am developing feelings for a nysc corp though he said he love me BT am confused because I don't wnt to be used and deceived. pls help me
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Hey epitome! We have answered this question before. You need to be very careful. He has just one year and he will definitely leave after then. Please, do not let him put you under pressure. So many corp members use their service year to take advantage of young innocent girls. You have to be really careful and please talk to a trusted adult about this. We hope this helps
hi big sister I'm developing feeling fr a copper I don't no u if he love me
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Hey adebinpe! Thanks for the comment. You need to be very careful. He has just one year and he will definitely leave after then. Please, do not let him put you under pressure. So many corp members use their service year to take advantage of young innocent girls. You have to be really careful and please talk to a trusted adult about this. We hope this helps
I know a boy in scul who asked me out in my dream n i never acepted . He's the scul's asistant hed boy nd he hasnt com to me fizicaly to ask me out . We pasby ich oda witout sayin a word.1day i was stained, i told d hed girl .d boy was in d next clasrom wit his frnd,his frnd called me nd i cudunt go bcos i was stained . I fel somhow about him . Please big sis hlp me out basi 2129
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Seriously.big sis is not answering me,(is it a love or a crush) basi
wow really nice
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Nice
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nice
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I already got mine
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Tell me about d person Plsssssssss.
um, cool
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I love that
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Hmmmmm, big sister, I'm 15 in yr 11.i really love this guy, he's my junior in yr 10.We suddenly became close and most of d time I leave my class just to see him and whenever I see him he brightens my mood. He likes me but I doubt it. There was a day I went to his class he held my hand and told me he wanted 2 kiss me as per jokes he showed me how 2 do it we'll just be rubbing cheeks together. So today I told him to fake a kiss with me in front of another guy but he actually kissed my cheek. He stares @ me and comes 2 my class for me, even tells me 2 escort him to class,he tells me I have a boyfriend which is him and Dat I shouldn't do anything to attract other boys 2 me but I'm still not really sure he loves me. Pls big sister help me with ur advice
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Hey Bjoe! Thanks for the comment. We advise you to talk to him about it and let him know that you really want to know how he feels about you. Communication is better than assumptions. We hope this helps
waw! nice story, please who wrote it
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waw am really in love with this story
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Awww, so cute☺
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so wonderful i really love this story so interesting
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I wish I could someone like that
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Wish I could meet someone like that
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Interesting I wish I could meet someone like daniel
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How old re u
I'm relieved😄
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hi big sis i love this particular boy but i did not tell him i love him
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Hi springster and Big sis,Happy new month and happy independent day may God continue to favour and bless us.someone say a Big Amen and be blessed.AMEN!!!!!!
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Yeah I do, we dated for three months and he decided to breakup, I was heartbroken because he knows I love him.. Can't say tho but according to his friend, he still loves me and it's just circumstances that led to our breakup.. Big sis I love him so much and I want to move on but I can't. Please help me out.
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Wow really interesting
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Hi big sister,hi everyone am new here
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Hi big sis, there is this boy I like himBut I think am older,what should I do
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Hello peculiar you are welcome.
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😦😭😭😭 this is just too romantic
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The same with me,all my friends have bf except me,they use to talk about it, in the class.
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big sis pls help me I have a boyfriend who beat and suspect me meeting orda guys, sumtyms his suspension are rite.but he made it knw to me dat he will not get married to me!! and his still not wanting me to meet wit order guys is he rite to do so .
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Wow,This is great
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Hmmm
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Hmmmm
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Hmmmn! This is interesting. Have learnt some real lessons here. Thanks
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Am new here please Big Aunty is it good to suck a dick and also drink sparm I need an advice please
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Wow I've learnt to love myself d way I am and nt change who i am for any1
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Wow this is great I learnt a lot
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