Talking to Mums about Teenage Issues

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I was 14 when I started my period.

And the day it happened, I was standing in front of our house when I noticed something coming down my leg. “Ehn My period” I said to myself.

I obviously knew what it was. I had been taught about it both at my formal and Islamic school.

‘My mum needs to know about this” I thought to myself.

But then, there was a little problem. I didn’t know how to tell her.

And it was not because we were not close. I was just so shy to bring up the matter.

And so, I kept quiet. I even made sure I continued with my prayers even though women are not allowed to pray while on their period in my religion.

I thought about different ways to break the news to my mum. But I just kept dreading it.

Finally, I decided to tell her after the evening prayer. When the evening prayer time came, I wasn’t still confident.

I decided to hide in the toilet. I sat there for over twenty minutes. I was basically doing nothing.

“I can’t just sit here, I need to do something” I said to myself. And so, I called my elder sister. I showed her the stain on my cloth. I acted ignorant even though I knew what it was.

I told her the blood came out of my body. Immediately, she grabbed my hands and started walking towards the sitting room while screaming “Mummy come and see, Azeezat has started her period”

My mum rushed towards us. My sister showed her my stained cloth. I was so shy. My mum noticed and it made her laugh.

I felt a bit embarrassed. I ran back to the toilet and refused to come out until my sister came to drag me out.

My mum then sat me down and explained what just happened. She taught me about the menstrual cycle(http://ng.heyspringster.com/sections/my-body/bunmis-period-cycle/) . And then, she showed me how to wear a pad.

She even talked to me about how to take care of myself during my period. And then, she advised me to be careful around men. Although I knew most of the things she was talking about. But, I also learnt new things.

Well, I wish I wasn’t so shy to talk to my mum or anyone about things like period or growing up.

Your period is normal and talking to a close and trusted family member about it shouldn’t scare you. It is fine to open up. You can learn a thing or two.

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Thanks big sis ...... it's helpful

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

Thanks big sis ...... it's helpful

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

Tank big sis.... It really helps. I was also shy when her i wanted to tell her

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

I have a secret I what to share with u guys anytime I come to springsters and I see all these encouraging comments am so happy it gives me joy and I appreciate guys.

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

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Hi jbaby nice to meet u,that's so true.

Yes we can be friends girl.

Jbaby if u don't mind,what class are u.

Am in SS1 also.

Jbaby which holidays do u like or Cherish the most, mine is August vacation.

hi

hi ,jbaby me too, but sometimes i dont know how to express my feelings. i am in sss1 too. presentlyi am watching a bollywood video titled 'twist of fate ' it interesting.

Hi guys am expivstar when I came last time, I didn't greet u guys because of,let just forget about dat and move on,am kinda sorry beth 1 for all those f**cking stuff I said to u,I said all these because I didn't like the way u were been rude to ur follow springsters her that's why I reacted the f**cking way I reacted.

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

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hey expivstar tell y u decided not to greet us ,we shud b frends here.

I hope am welcome here.

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

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yes u are absolutely welcome.

expivstar if u don't mind can we be friends?

am in ss1 now and u?

Hi expivstar

OK

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

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OK, that's great.

maybe later, expivstar

yes,i was once in her situation and i handled it the way azeezat did

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

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hi ace, wen i started mine i told my mum immediately cos i notice very early.

hey everyone, I am new here.

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

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Welcome to this platform.

is always like that when you're seeing it for the first time

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

Hi friends, hw was ur day.

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

Great and you

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

My mum and i are close but i wish i could tell her am dating if i do she would kill me

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

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Hey Kimani! Thanks for the comment. Your mum will definitely not kill you for telling her that you are dating someone. She may be disappointed or may even shout at you but she will definitely not kill you. Since you are close to her, it should be easy for you to talk to her about this. You do not have to go to her directly, you can just chip it in when you are having a conversation with her. You can also talk to another trusted adult on this. We hope this helps

Am Favvee..Am New Here,hope Am Welcomed

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

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Welcome😀😀😀😀😀👏👏👏👏👏👏👍👍👍

Hi favvee

Dear Favvee, You are welcome to this platform,

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

You're really wlcome dear favee wish we could throw a welcomd party for ya!

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

You're really wlcome dear favee wish we could throw a welcome party for ya!

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

I find it difficult to talk to my mummy about my sex life, if though I really need someone to talk to but we are not in that kind if relationship

March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.

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Hey IndustriousTee! Thanks for the comment. Have you tried building that relationship with her? How did it go? You can try to do this and see how it will go. Mums are always very passionate about their teenagers and guiding them. We hope this helps

For me I didn’t grow up with my family, I was afraid and shy to talk to anybody about my situation, thanks God who gave me the understanding and also with the help of book I was able to help myself.........true story

March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.

hi friend am new here am i highly welcome

March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.

Hi 👋 am new here

March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.

I don't think I'll ever be able to talk to my mom about my issues. That's not a bad thing. Right?

March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.

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Hey TheIyinoluwarh! Thanks for the comment. Is there a reason why you cannot talk to your mum these? Is that you are scared of her reaction or that you do not just feel comfortable talking to her? You can also speak to other trusted adults about these as long as you are comfortable with them. We hope this helps

I don't care how she reacts. It's not because I'm scared. She just doesn't understand so even though I'm telling her about something that excites me, or a problem I have she just says okay or s he says something that's off point. So I don't bother. I'd rather talk to my friends than my mom or any other adult

Big sis Can I talk to my boyfriend about my period

March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.