Mothers can be cool too
We sometimes think mums are too old to understand our teenage concerns.
The truth is your mum was once a teenager.
She once had a crush on a boy.
She once experienced the changes your body is currently going through.
She probably asked some of the questions you are asking now.
Questions like
- Why haven’t I seen my period?
- Why are my friends taller than me?
- Why isn’t my breast growing?
- How do I tell a boy I like him?
She has been through it all.
There is so much we can learn from our mums.
Are you scared to talk to your mum? Here are tips that can help you
Find something your mum loves do
Is it cooking, dancing, exercising?. Do it with her. This way you can build your relationship with her.
Be outspoken
Learn to share how you feel. Don’t bottle up your feelings. Start with telling her the little things like how you spent your day, something new you learnt. This will help build your confidence and relationship for when you would want to discuss the more serious stuff
Think positive
Don’t imagine you will get shouted at by your mum. Imagine she will understand and be open to talk to you. Imagine she will love to hear you talk. Thinking this way will give you the courage to speak to your mum.
Keep her trust
Do you always do what you say you will do? Keeping our promises (and giving explanations when we can’t) is one way to build and maintain trust. When adults know they can trust us, it’s easier for them to listen and respond to us when we go to them.
You don’t have to only speak to your mum.
You can also speak to your aunt, older sibling or a trusted adult around you.
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There is so much we can learn from our mums.
May 8, 2022, 4:28 a.m.
My mum's very undastandin&wego along wel,stimes we chat lyk teenagers.I only try 2 maintain her trust.
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Momma is pretty cool. I can really confide in her but you just hate yourself when she shouts at you coz she recalls stuffs you've forgotten you did
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
thanks big sis
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
My mom is an easy going person even my classmates always tell me how free they are with her. Although she can get angry but it 'll quickly pass that same moment.
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
My mum is not easy to talk to
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
how can i talk to my mum she dont want to see me with a boy and most of all my friend are boys
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey queen! We totally understand how you feel and we had you in mind when we wrote this article. Please follow the tips in the article and you see that they work like magic. We hope this helps
my mum's cool too but still have some issues with her
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
our mum had experience all this they know how to take good of us so let discuss it with them ok
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
but i don't have to tell her bcos i have not start my period yet
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey bars! You don't have to wait to start your period before you start talking to your mum about it. You can actually start talking and even bonding with your mum before you start your period. This is a good way to get closer and learn some new things from your mum. We hope this helps
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March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
My mum does not understand me
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Springster! So sorry about that. We have given you tips that can connect you with your mum. If you follow them and you are patient, you and your mum can understand each other better and get along easily. We hope this helps
Aw can someone tell a boy she like him
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Mayo! Please read the story "Does he like you". This has the answer to all your questions. We hope this helps
it is good to have a talk with her mother but my mother anytime i talk to her she will not give me a better instead she will use that and quote me wrong so what should i do
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Ndianaobong! Thanks for the comment. You need to talk to your mum about this thing that she does and how it makes you feel. We are sure she will listen. We hope this helps
my mum was someone who lyk 2 pretend as if she does nt understand u until u fell in is trap. even u has 4 permision b4 goin out wen u rtun she'll said y do u come late. as in i don't fel comfortable telling my hw i fell.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
i feel comfortable talking 2 my uncle nd he also advice me bt since he was transfer.i don't feel comfortable talking 2 some1 else nt even my mum talkless of my dad who does nt want us around guys.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey enyola! Thanks for the comment. When we say talk to a trusted adult, we do not necessarily mean that you should talk to your parents. What we actually mean is that you should talk to any adult you can trust. This can be an uncle, aunt, sister, cousin, brother, uncle or even neighbor/teacher. As long as you are comfortable talking to that person and you are sure you trust their advice, then that is a trusted adult for you. We hope this helps
Am aldo also in the same shoes with you. To share what's happening with me with my dad or mum is sometimes difficult. I prefer chatting and sharing burdens with people who aren't my blood.. and if those people just go or weren't around us due to work transfer or the likes..we feel perplexed, worried and tends to be lonely a times.
I WAS 17 YEARS I FINISHED MY SECONDARY SCH DIS YEAR I JUST FEEL LI KE CRYING RYT NOW I DONT TINK MY MUM UNDERSTAND ME SHE ALWAYS TREAT ME LIKE BABY I CANT GO OUT ON MY OWN LIKE GOIN 2 A FRIEND BIRTHDAY IS IT GUD BIG SIS BCAUSE I WAS TIRED OH!!!
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey KEDDY! Thanks for the comment. We totally understand how you feel and honestly, you are not alone in this. To you, you are a big girl but to your mum, you are still her baby. What you need to do is to make her understand that you are now a big girl and she needs to allow you to certain things by yourself without policing you because very soon, you will be all by yourself. No need to fight or argue with her, just talk things out with her and we are sure she will understand. We hope this helps
Big sis but i hav tried 2 let her understand me it seems she dont 1t 2 hear me out.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey KEDDY! Thanks for the comment. Well, since you have tried talking to her and she won't listen, it is obvious that she still sees you as her baby. One thing we can say is that this won't last forever, after a while, you will definitely get your independence to enjoy. Life is in phases, when that time comes, you will even miss your mum's protection. Until then, we advise that you try to enjoy the love and covering your mum gives. It can be hard but once you understand her point of view and see that this is just pure love, you will appreciate it more. We hope this helps
Hi Big sister ,a friend of mine is going through a lot each time she laments I feel like crying with her.My frnds mum had her went she was 16 n nw she is married n she has a son they all stay together .My friends name is Rita ,Rita was raped at d age of 6 by an uncle ,she wa later raped again at d age of 9 by a family friend n she almost did something stupid to her self becos of d incident ,nw she is 16 years old.When ever her mum gets angry at a(jst a slight mistakes)she will start reminding her on how she was raped n dat she is no longer a virgin at her tender age and dis breaks her,she cries nd wanna hurt her self if nt becos of d frnds nd kind of person she is she would have run mad or feed on drugs .At a point she started talking to her self pls help help us,how should she deal wit her mum? n d thought ?
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. We are so sorry about what Rita is going through right now. No one should ever be shamed for being raped. It was not her fault. We understand that Rita is really sad and disturbed and we sympathize with her. There is a Child Advocacy Center where they help and give professional advice to young people in situations like this on what they can do to be safe. You can call them on 08 00 80 080 01. This service is completely confidential - which means they won't share what you say to them with other people. It is free which means you don’t not need to have credit before you call them. We hope this helps
please are you really sure that's Rita mother or an aunt because I have never seen a mother that could say hurtful words to her own blood,reminding her of what she went through when she was 6 and 9 that's inappropriate Rita am very sorry for what is going on but remember this everything that happens in one's life has a purpose don't worry my God will help you dear.
Im new in these forum,i want to say hi to everybody
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
hello since my mum saw me drinking she hasnt been talking too me like before wat do i do pls big sis
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Tenny007! Thanks for the comment. Your mum is probably still disappointed in you. We advise that you talk to her and apologize. Also, you should let her know why you did what you did. We are sure that once she knows that you are remorseful and ready to change, she will forgive you. We wish you all the best and we hope this helps
why isn't my breast not growing
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
why isn't my breast growing
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey bella! Thanks for the comment. Your breasts are growing but not at the pace you want it to grow. Also, you do not have to compare your growth to others because it will make you feel bad. Please note that the size of your breast is hormonal and it really cannot be forced. You need to be patient and also trust the process. Big breast does not mean that you are growing okay. There is a lot more to growth that has nothing to do with breasts. We hope this helps
I hope articles on male gender can also be posted because it's not all members in this group that are females. Or better still @Big Sis. I think a WhatsApp group can also be created.
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
My mom dosen't understood bt my sis she gves me advices on everything as of nw she's my mentor tanks big sis ur my great help
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
My mom is always hash on me am sacred to talk to her
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.