But I just want to be myself!
My parents are always nagging me about something. Like, how I love wearing t-shirts and comfortable trousers. My mum says girls should only wear long skirts and dresses. She also says I use my phone too much. I feel like I just can’t have fun anymore.
Dad has been strict with me too. I love working on computers. He dislikes the idea of me working in computer sciences. He made me drop it as a course of study in my JAMB form.
My brother seems to be able to eat, wear and do what we wants. It makes me so angry.
Lately my mum has started criticising my friends. She thinks they aren’t clever enough.
I have both male and female friends. I love them. They always support my passions and dreams. Mum thinks they are a distraction and dad says a girl should not be friends with a boy at my age. He says people will get the wrong idea. I think it is all too much. My friends laugh at me about how strict my parents are.
It is my best friend Anita’s birthday this weekend, and my parents have said I can’t go. They won’t give me a reason why not.
I respect my parents. I know they are just looking out for me, but I also want to have more control over decisions that affect me. I think I have proved I am super trustworthy, so I hope they can be open to having a conversation with me.
I took some time to calm down and made sure to talk to them when I was not angry. When I was ready, I calmly told them that I was proud of the woman I was becoming. That I study hard and value my friendships – and that I would like their support.
I gave them time to voice their concerns, and they respected my points too. At the end of the conversation, my parents both admired how mature I had become. They both agreed, that they would support my decisions more. Mum has even promised to stop asking me to wear dresses.
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March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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my Sis thinks my mom is hard on her this because whenever my mom comes home from work she would scold my big sis,curse her ,swear for her and all manner of things this makes my sis sad and sometimes she answers my mom sacarstically with annoyance pls I don't know what to big sis and other springsters pls help me
my Sis thinks my mom is hard on her this because whenever my mom comes home from work she would scold my big sis,curse her ,swear for her and all manner of things this makes my sis sad and sometimes she answers my mom sacarstically with annoyance pls I don't know what to big sis and other springsters pls help me
My parent are not stric with me. They are the best parent ever.
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
Yup always is and always will be That's what parents are... Always being protective
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Is it normal to have a boy lover without ur parent knowing
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My father does allow me to visit my friend or any other places.
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Rita, I think you should tell your dad about it and pray also....... From big_sis
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
My mum says she want me to become a medical doctor, my dad says he wants me to be a reverend sister, but i want to become a lawyer. My mum says chewing gum is for prostitute. What should i do because i love chewing gum
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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OMG ur in a deep pickle, first of all try talking to them about what u want to be in future, just try ur best to make them understand that it's what you have passion for. Secondly chewing gum is not for prostitutes but just try to stop bcos of ur mom bcos even though it's not for prostitutes it also has other bad effects like it reduces ur memory capacity etc.... thank me
My parents are really annoying they are always disturbing and nagging me all the time. They never support what i do, always critizing. I am growing to disdain them already
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
My parents are really annoying they are always disturbing and nagging me all the time. They never support what i do, always critizing. I am growing to disdain them already
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
Have been there once but one thing is certain choice and trust if your parents don't trust you what ever you do is bad. I think you should reassure them that you will not disappoint them I always do that if I feel my mom is having issue of trust with me and is working but one thing is to make promise and another is to keep that promise once trust is betray there is nothing you can do to get it as the original.
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my parents are annoying, they make me feel like so bad
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my father is a strict man but not my mom but sometimes she is so annoying
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My dad is also strict but not much
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I really wished I lived with my parents as well,I lived with different parents which brought me in to different lifestyles.. I wished I had that parental caring and support..
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My dad is over protective but I know he is looking out for me but sometime it just annoys me.Some time he misunderstood and think am young and that I don't know somethings.
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.
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Hey Motorola! Thanks for the comment. We are glad that you are seeing this in good light. You can sometimes explain yourself to him so that he understands your point of view so that you do not get misunderstood. We hope this helps
My dad usually finds fault in whatever I do , maybe mistakenly. My mom gets on my nerves easily enough. Imagine! My dad gave me a phone but banned me from downloading any game on it, then talkless of playing games with it.
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.
My dad usually finds fault in whatever I do , maybe mistakenly. My mom gets on my nerves easily enough. Imagine! My dad gave me a phone but banned me from downloading any game on it, then talkless of playing games with it.
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.
Mah dad x jst too strict watever he says mah mum supports both good ad bad dey don't jst care abt hw i feel
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Make them release n make them understand ok.
My parents now think that I'm no longer serious because I scored 177 in jamb. I've been trying to tell them that there's sething wrong in that result but they just don't listen. They are comparing me to people who scored high. My dad even said I'm not as intelligent as he thought I am, he is saying that I've been cheating in all my exams. I feel so bad that they think of me this way, sometimes I just wanna leave the house for them but I can't. My dad has been finding fault in everything I do. Even when I want to cook, they always treat me like I don't know what am doing. Whenever am cooking, they will start telling me different things, how I should put seasoning and sometimes they even start sending me to bring ingredients for them on the same food am cooking. Whenever my mom is not around, instead of my dad to let me cook he prefers calling my aunt to cook. Now he is giving everyone the impression that I cannot do anything on my own. For this reason, i no longer have fun doing anything again. I just let them cook and go to sleep after setting all the ingredient for the food. I am only waiting for a time when they will both travel, only then will I be able to practice the recipes I've learn both online and physically I'll be fifteen by July but I look bigger than my age. Is this approach of mine good??
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.
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Yes. But try ur very best to make them have believe in u again.
Being strict sometimes didn't mean they hate you or don't want you to live ur live the way u want it,its just they want to protect you and protect your future so as not end up the way they do But I understand something that either you are strict or not to your children,anything that want to happen will happen
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