Speak your mind loud and proud
Do you remember a time you spoke up about something you cared about? How did you feel? Good, right? You see for us girls, our voices are our greatest weapon. When we learn to speak up, we’ll get the respect we deserve. We’ll be true to ourselves.
If someone calls you names, say ‘stop’. Tell them what they’re doing is wrong. Try not to use insulting words. Keep it respectful.
When your friend annoys you, don’t pretend to be happy. Remember, she can’t read your mind. Tell her how you feel. If you can’t be honest with someone, it’s no use being their friend.
Now imagine this. You’re in the market with your mum. She wants to get you a gift. She asks you to choose between the ‘in’ top or that wooden sculpture you like. You’re afraid that if you go for the sculpture, people will look at you funny. But here’s the thing: people will talk no matter what you say or do. So go for what you really want, okay?
Also, if a boy asks you out, it’s not by force to agree. Don’t pretend to like him just to make him happy. Just say ‘no’ and if he continues to pressure you, speak to a trusted adult about it.
When you decide you are ready to be more than ‘just friends’ with a boy you like, speaking up is important. It’s easy to let someone have their way just because you like them. But this can get you in trouble. So be clear about how you want to be treated. If the person you’re seeing talks down to you, say ‘I don’t like it’. If they suggest something that makes you uncomfortable, speak up at once. If they don’t listen, report to a trusted adult.
However, speaking your mind isn’t that easy. You worry people won’t like you. But the only way to truly be yourself is to be truthful. If you pretend to be someone else you will never get what you really want. And this will probably make you unhappy.
Also remember that we live in a big world. Someone will surely like you just the way you are. So speak out and walk tall. You go girl!
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This is helpful .. I just confront a friend of mine about what she said about me and she was surprise I could ask her, thinking I would keep it to my self and start holding grudges but to my surprise .she took it in a wrong way ,trying to defend her self and end up being rude but I ignore because have said my mind and done with her for good ..is good to say your mind and be free ..
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey HonestK! We are glad you find this helpful and you used the tips we gave. You have a voice and you are allowed to use it as long as you are not being rude. Thanks for sharing this with us.
i love this article, wheneve i speak up people said am showing that i know everything, they also said i talk too much
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Favi! We are glad you like this article. Speaking up does not show you know everything, it shows you are confident and you know what you want for yourself. Feel free to share this article with friends
when i m insulted,i try to laugh it away/avoid using harsh language because d Bible says "a mild answer turns away rage"
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yes it's truth with wot u said
I speak up anytime am being offended, I say my mind but depends on the people or person.
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Good one
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AM VERY SILENT WHEN I GET REALLY MAD
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I love to speak up when someone offended me. But people think I always get angry and they do make fun of me.
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Hey Olaitan01! Maybe it is the way you say it. There are ways you speak up and it shows that you are angry and bitter. You could be rude or even shout. Watch the way you speak up, these people may be right you know. We hope this helps
Hi I'm New Here,wen I Get Mad At U I Walk Out Immediatly, If I Stay I Mith Do Xum Tin Stupid
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Am a shy type,so if someone annoy me,i don't talk I will rather walk away
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hi,I'm New here,when I get mad at you,I ignore you completely .I don't voice out my feelings rather I keep malice with you.
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Hey izzybae! Thanks for the comment. Keeping it in is worse. You end of storing in anger in you and this makes you bitter. It is always better to say it once and for all. Keeping malice is not the best way to resolve anything okay? We hope this helps
Am in a relationship with a guy and I never seen him.we met through social media
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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What will I do?.is that safe and good?.
No is not safe
Hey Smiles! First of all, you have to be careful because not everyone on social media (Facebook, Instagram etc) lives a real life. Some of them are hiding their real personalities on social media. You are probably enjoying the attention he is giving you since this is your first "relationship". If you must go out on a date with him (which we do not advise), please go to an open place (of your choice, not where he chooses) that has many people and be very watchful. If he asks you to go to somewhere private and/or secluded, please do not go. If possible, go with someone and tell a trusted adult where you are going to and also give his number. We hope this helps.
Thanks a lot big sister,really appreciate your advice
I'm new here am a shy type if am d one I will ashame
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
When i speak up they said am rude , wot wll i do
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Hey Aspirant! Maybe it is the way you say it. There are ways you speak up that sound rude and bitter. You do not have to shout or even scream for you to be rude. You can quietly say something to someone and still be rude. Watch the way you speak up, these people may be right you know. We hope this helps
is better i say it atleast i have said my mind
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nice
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Am new here when i got mad i stay silent, am a shy type but smile alot
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u just like me,am a shy type but always smile
CAN WE B FRNDS
I WILL LOVE IT
When I got annoyed then I remain silence...... Though i may later respond that is when the anger has already subsided.
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I LOVE YOU
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hi,am new....n,am havin,problem with,my guy...We,have suspend,our relationship,cuz,no sex,i told,him i,dont,want,2,do it,again...My,problem,z,i dont,want 2...loose,him,cuz,i love...him,n,i dont,want us,2,av,sex....What do,i,do?
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Hey vicky33! Thanks for the comment. If you are not ready to have sex, no one should force you to do it. If he cannot respect your decision then he doesn't deserve you. He is worth loosing. If he loves you like he claims, he will respect you. Love is not forceful and sex is not love. We hope this helps
There is a boy in my class i love him big sis help
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Umu! You need to be sure of your feelings towards im. Talk to him to know him better. Know his likes, dislikes and his personality. This way, you will really know if you truly love him at all. We hope this helps
I want to break up with a guy DAT recently ask. me out he's asking me for sex
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey faithicious! Thanks for opening up through this comment. No one should ever ask you for force you into having sex with them. If you are not ready, please do not be under pressure. We hope this helps
Big sister I like a guy and I want to be more than just friends with him. But I'm scared.. U know where I come from when a girl tells a guy she loves him and ask him to be her boyfriend she's seen as cheap and mannerless... What do I do big sis, I really like this guy and if I delay much I might lose him...
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Hey Springster! Thanks for opening up through this comment. This is a personal decision for you to make. We advise that you take your time to think of the decision you want to make properly so that you do not make a mistake. We hope this helps
Love
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who Love me
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Big,sis,pimples....Z,seriousli disturbin,me n,av,use,d process,on,ur,blog...Av,use fubat-a,skeneal,bitterleaf,i do,wash,my face,with,warm,water,i,dont,even,allow powda,2 stay,on,my face,i also,use,facecleansa,still,yet......Please help,me.
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey vicky33! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Some times, pimples are a sign of puberty and people tend to outgrow it. This may be your case. We advise that you stop using all of these things (as they may be harsh for your skin and even cause more damage). Let your skin rest and ignore the pimples on your face okay? If yours is a sign of puberty, in no time, it will go. We hope this helps
thanks,,,big sis...But,am,19yrs,now,n pimples,av been,disturbin,me,since my,js3....Is sometimes,painful,n sometimes,not,makin,my face,rough...But,hope i,can,b,rubin,my body,cream...On,my face...Or,should,i,leave,my,face,like,that?Again,z,shearbutter,advicable?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey vicky33! You can use your regular moisturiser on your face but not all those other things you mentioned in your previous comment. Maybe your face wants to breathe too. Don't forget to wash your face at least twice a day but it should not be more than this frequency, keep your hands and nails as clean as possible by washing them regularly with soap and water. Avoid popping the pimple, stop touching your face, remove all the makeup from your face before going to sleep. Do not use cosmetics containing chemicals that will irritate the skin. Also, cut down on dairy and sugary foods. Eat more fiber, walnuts, fish and vegetables. Wash your pillowcases and bedsheet regularly and drink lots of water. We hope this helps.
I have a big problem
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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And what is the problem
Tell us the problem so that we can help you out
Big sis, i am 16 years old. I have a crush on a boy. i cant express my feelings to him. what do i do?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Thanks for opening up through this comment. The truth about crushes is that they do not last long. The feeling tends to go short while. What you need to do is to get to know him better so that you know whether you are attracted to what you see or his true personality. We hope this helps
Big 6ter i have girl i am so much in love with,as a guy what can i do to make her happy always
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Hey Rahdo! This is not something for us to tell you. This is personal and up to the both of you. We hope this helps
Woman should be treated like a Queen
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And Man Should Be Treated Like A King
true talk
Thanks for opening up through this comment. The truth about crushes is that they do not last long. The feeling tends to go short while. What you need to do is to get to know him better so that you know whether you are attracted to what you see or his true personality. We hope this helps
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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abt this crush of thing, is it good to break up in any relationship? How can someone recover quickly from break ups?
Hey IGKEYZ! Thanks for the comment. Breaking up a relationship is a personal decision. We cannot tell you whether or not to end a relationship. Recovering from a breakup can be hard but once you make a conscious effort to move on and you have good distractions, it will be easier for you. We hope this helps
AM too emotional if u do me anytin i will start crying
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Big sister i like a boy and i do not know wether he likes me i do anthing for him how do i know wether he likes me?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Just Ask Him {do You Like Me Or Not} U Will Find Your Answer
Hey Oba42! There is no manual to know whether a boy likes you or not. You may need to talk to him about it or pay close attention to the signs and unspoken words. We hope this helps
Hmm I think the best thing to do is work on to him and tell him what you feel for him simple then you will know weather he likes you or not!!!!!!
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
big sis am dating seven boys and i like them all what should i do
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Hey Lizzy01! You cannot love 7 boys equally and you really do not need to be in a relationship with all of them. You need to know why you are in a relationship with each of them first of all and then find out what you want for yourself too. You are only stressing yourself and hurting all the boys. Please end the relationships and find out what you really want before you start dating. Being in a relationship has a lot to do with maturity and it comes with a lot of responsibility. We hope this helps
That not possible
hay b pacient,wat u can do is dat u test all of dem,jst do as if u av an ijured on 1 of ur 2 oranges nd luk who will be care of u
hay b pacient,wat u can do is dat u test all of dem,jst do as if u av an ijured on 1 of ur 2 oranges nd luk who will be care of u
i dont beliv it bt u can pik d u like d most bcus 1day ur secret can be exposed
can i av a girl frnd
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Yes if u like
Dear before getting into a relationship with a girl you should be adequately prepared. Don't get into a relationship when you aren't ripe for that or in a situation you can't offer anything.
Wow! Adequate advice.......
Good advise,i appreciate
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Good one
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pls when someone annoys me i keep to my self and i would like to say it but my instinct will tell me not to. please tell me what to do
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U have to say it ,so dat d person would not try to attempt it again
Alll d time but my frinds thinks tat i am a bad girl
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U ignore them all
Yes o ,is true
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i'm new plz wecom me
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U AR WECOM
Your words just gave me confidence about myself and my rights. Thanks for making me feel better
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We are glad they gave you confidence Zika!, we live for feedbacks like this, feel free to share with your friends, we hope this helps.
AM NEW PLS WECOM ME
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u re wehcom
Seniors at school insult me wat should i do
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Am new pls wecom me
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u're welcom
Boys at my area disturbs me just to accept them plz what do i do
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be carefull
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*Be* #Care _Full_
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Am New Here,pls Welcome Me
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u' re welcom
I do crush on guys.... When they ask me out.... I hate them.... Why is it so
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Hey Sapphire_eme! Thanks for the comment. There is a huge difference between crush and love. Having a crush is not the same thing as being in love and this is why you eventually do not like the boys when they ask you out. A crush tends to die very fast and the feelings fade away before you know it. This may be the reason. We hope this helps
i do luv a guy. we luv each other so much but in a distance relationship. we do chat on facebook.
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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try to every details about him
Ok...buh did he love uew?
Hey ashley10! If you met him on facebook, you need to be very careful because the people you meet online are not always totally honest about their true personalities. They tend to pretend because you cannot see them physically. So please be extremely careful. We hope this helps
Trusting a guy you don't know on facebook him 🏃 for your dear life.
hi big sister I have a male friend he is very nice and he as be dots in me over 5year he want me data me but d problem is am dating is Young brother and is Young brother is chain on me can't I dating him
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I love you my sister!
wat can I do sister
Hey pssss! Thanks for the comment. Please, do not attempt dating 2 people talk less of 2 brothers. Let him know that you are dating his brother. Also, how come he didn't know that you are dating his brother if you both are close? We hope this helps
he no am dating is brother
Am new here pls big sister i need and advice on dis my boyfriend as a friend and is frend want me 2 date him and he no dat am dateing is friend pls guys wot can i do to dis am confused.
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Boys! Well dear talk to ur boyfriend about it ,tell him that he's friend is asking you out ,but before then talk to the other guy,give him a stern warning and if persists tell ur boyfriend. Hope it helps
Hey Tuxedo! There is no much to say than to tell him that you are not interested (politely) and also tell your boyfriend about it. Also, you need to stay safe at all times. We hope this helps
Big sis,i am a christian,my bf is a muslim and he says he wants to get married to me in the nearest future....he's serious about it and asks me to tell my mum,i did but she's against it and i know my family won't be happy about it if they discover,what should i do continue the relationship?
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Hey Alor! Thanks for opening up through this comment. This is a very sensitive issue and no matter how much advise we give, you still have the final decision to make. You need to be really sure that he is serious about marrying you and you really love him. We will advise that you do not let this issue affect you so much for now. Just live and wait for the time to come (the nearest future). When you both are ready financially, physically, mentally and in every other way, we believe that a solution will come but until then, live and let live. We hope this helps
Some girls love boys that are honest. But say your mind
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Focus of what you say to your friends
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YES THANK U I LEARN SOME LESSON IN DIS WORD
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Hmm.. That's A Thought-full One, Don't Mind I May Ask; Do U Think This'll Serve Gud To All Lady Cause Nt Every Ladys Can Condue To That!
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Hmmh.. But Remember Lesson Can't Be Learn Without Mistakes! So Is Also Appicable As Seeing Mistakes And Joining To It SO WHY THAT??
Hey Pwesh! This may not work for everyone but it works for most people. Also, please note that the tone you use also matters too. We hope this helps
am afraid in speaking my mind when I have to ,I feel I might get beat up or rejected ,or mocked ,can I have guard line on how to be out spoken
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Hey Rikki! Thanks for the comment. You do not have to be afraid for speaking out. It is your voice and your opinion and you have every right to speak about it. The funny thing is whether you talk or not, some people will mock you or say bad things about you so it's just best to talk once and for all. For tips on speaking up, we advise that you search for #confidence on the site and read all the amazing stories we have written for you. We hope this helps
am afraid in speaking my mind when I have to ,I feel I might get beat up or rejected ,or mocked ,can I have guard line on how to be out spoken
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Am Afriad Of Speaking My Mind Cos I Think Dat Dey Wil Beat Me And Dey Wil Mock Me
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Hey Olabusayo15! No one can beat you for saying what's on your mind as long as it is not an insult or you are not being rude. You have a voice and the world needs to hear you speak. Keeping it in will only make you feel less confident and shy and this can make some bullies take advantage of you. We believe you have a lot to offer and you need to speak out more girl. We hope this helps
i have to say something about but am so afraid
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Wat makes u afraid?
I just love this article
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
I luv 2 speak out anywhere i am. remember, if u pretend 2 b someone else u will definatly 4get who u ar.
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
Speaking out your mind gives u a sense of relief, at least u av spoken evn whn d opinion is not accepted.....i speak wen its neccessary
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
Hi bigsis,dears is dis boy in my class,we both love ourself but recently i told him i dont luv him but his not angry.Bigsis do u tink i liked him or i had a cruch on him?
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All the time but most times, my opinion is ignored
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dat rite most time when u give idea 2 pple they ignor u. i don't give idea most when am at home cos my uncle ill listing 2me
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Once in a while....rght nw, i hav dis guy stalking me nd i hav told him am nt his wife neither fince...bt kept distubing me..so i stop talking to him dn't knw if am rght
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Rukyanna! Thanks for the comment. Yes, you did the right thing. When someone stalks you so much, the best thing to do is to stop talking to them so that they understand how serious you are. As long as you were not rude, you did the right thing. We hope this helps
my boyfriend ask for sex nd am stil a virgin.cnt juz do it bt i couldnt tel him 2 his face so i told him in our chat on facebook dat i dnt want 2 do it. he pleased wit me nd the pressure was 2 much i had 2 broke up wit him..big sis i stil love him nd am sad abt wat i did.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. Let him go girl, he does not deserve you. Sex is not love. If he really loves you, he will respect your decision not to have sex. He does not deserve you. You'll be fine dear. We hope this helps
thanks people I am loving it here so I can say no easily wawu I love it here
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
Plz big sis,Hw can I c d replies to my previous comments?
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Hey Lv33! Please go to the article you commented on to see the replies. We hope this helps
Big sis how do I refuse boys when they ask me to befriend them
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Then you tell them what you want.
I am new here you will not welcome me
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U ar welcome @rodi
Welcome Rodi
l am new welcome me
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hi mike welcome to springster,what do u mean by welcome me!!,is it by force to welcome someone ni!!!i am taking back my welcome sef!!!
Dnt mind her@ cutie........
Hi mike and maiden
Welcome, don't take to hrt what @cutie said she is just joking dats hw we relate with each oda here, ave fun and feel at home, can we be friends.
Cutie small small no vex,welcome mike
Cutie ah luv ur stylexo welbme mike
Welcome Mike nd rodi
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Hello sisters! You know that self honesty and self respect Is one Of the qualities of a good woman or girl. We know that it may seem hard, but it's the right kind of quality we must have . Let's try to live a life worthy of emulation.
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I just need good relationship
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I want my lover to love me too...:-*
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how can i impress a girl i love so much
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u just ve to b social, i mean been simple n try to make her happy by telling her jokes if u re good in that or u can buy her a gift like pant she will b happy, u can now hang out together in a normal time u ve change to turn her up.
speaking up is good but not all who speaks bcos no boldness in them. so lest try to voice out our minds anywhere we go in times of challenges.
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I can't friend someone who is truthful
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